Did you know that uncertainty is one of the most common fears that we share among us?
It is very natural to feel a bit nervous whenever you think about an uncertain situation. I bet you are familiar with this feeling and you can probably think of something in your life right now that is uncertain to you and makes you feel uneasy.
And if you are anything like me, you start overthinking it and make it a bigger deal than it actually is.
This can have a negative impact on your well-being and mindset if you are not aware of it. Yes, there is a lot of uncertainty but do we really need to know EVERYTHING? We cant know everything. We can try to find out and prepare as best as we can, but there is no way to predict it all and have certainty with everything in life.
There is a lot of ways and tools that you can use to help yourself dealing with anxious thoughts and uncertainty in general. It took me a few years to realize what works best for me, but this shows, there is always a way if we really want to learn how to handle our thoughts and feelings towards uncertainty better.
I came across a book recently, which summaries my past experiences so well, so I would like to suggest the following book, if you are also eager to learn more about uncertainty and how to handle it better.
The book is called “Embrace uncertainty” by Susan Jeffers.
In the book she writes about why we worry too much about things that might not even happen, and she also makes a very good point by writing “Nowhere has it been proven that a rich, joyous, abundant life cannot exist in the presence of uncertainty”. She lets the reader know, that there is indeed no evidence that uncertainty is a negative thing, but she is not stopping there, she flips it around and is giving the reader the idea that life can be wonderful BECAUSE of uncertainty! Since she mentions this early in the book, this statement will spark the readers interest and motivate them to read further. It is a very refreshing approach of life and what we do don’t know about it. Uncertainty is probably one of the most common fears, but the author explains why it can be the exact opposite and in fact, a blessing rather than a curse. By acknowledging and having the awareness she helps the reader to play around with the idea of not knowing what comes next and be at peace with that knowledge. Throughout the chapters (which are well laid out and easy to digest), she gives some short mini exercises in-between to help the reader practice how to react when uncertainty and worries occupy the mind of the reader. A personal favorite of mine was the “Maybe” exercise. “Maybe I’m right, maybe I’m wrong”. She basically suggests including the word “maybe” when thinking of an uncertain situation which will automatically take out the pressure and anxiety. “maybe I win, maybe I won’t”. Maybe I pass Maybe I won’t etc.
She also describes how important it is to trust in the grand scheme of things. There is simply no way we can know what comes next but by learning to trust the process, rather than thinking and controlling the possible outcome, it gives the reader a certain form of relief. The author also writes about our highest good and trusting that whatever happens- is for our highest good. She is writing about the higher self and how important it is to learn from a negative experience. So basically, everything that happens to us is valuable and good. It happens for us. By changing your mindset, the reader once again can feel a sense of relief by realising the above.
If you want to turn your thoughts around and learn how to embrace uncertainty, i recommend the following:
- Read this book
- Reach out to me if you would like to work on this together. I would love to help you embrace uncertainty and enjoy your life to the fullest.
What are your thoughts on it?
I would love to hear from you!